Fat women face an extra special facet of rape culture, though — the claim that they should be grateful for it. You read that right: grateful for being raped.
The logic goes that, of course, no one would want to touch a fat woman. We’re so gross, you know? So if someone was actually willing to have sex with us, then we should be on our knees with gratitude thanking that person for sharing their special snowflake of a dick with us. Some people even deny that it’s possible for fat women to be raped because, ew, who would want to have sex with a fatty?
I’ve heard stories from actual rape victims who heard things like “Who would want to rape you?” (that particular story was one in which the police officer said this). Or “I bet you were grateful to finally get some, huh?” Let’s be clear: while the reasons for rape are complicated and include a whole lot of things, dehumanization and objectification of women is at least one pretty large factor. And who doesn’t love to dehumanize and objectify fat women?
Fat woman are simultaneously desexualized and oversexualized in our culture. Myths abound of fat women being always ready for sex, promiscuous, and never turning down sex. And then you get instances like the scene in the popular film The Lorax in which the main character questions the gender identity of a fat woman for no apparent reason. Rape culture is where this desexualization and oversexualization intersect. No one could possibly want to have sex with you, which is why you’re such a slut and sleep around and why you would be lucky if you get raped.